The best state [of any relationship] is “I love you; you are free,” but many people stick to the attitude that “I love you; you are mine,” and some believe in only the second clause.

This [“you are mine”] is actually the source of doubt, suspicion, jealousy, anxiety, and hysteria.

What I want to say is that, if people want to maintain a long-term comfortable relationship, they need identification and attraction, not oppression, enmeshment, flattering, unilateral sacrifice, or being morally moved by one’s own actions.

Don’t kneel down on the ground and be moved to tears by yourself.